There’s a mistake people make about positivity.
They think they have to feel positive before they can act that way. So they wait.
Meanwhile the alarm goes off. The phone lights up. Somebody needs something. A problem lands in your lap. And before you’ve had one clear thought of your own, the day has started making your decisions for you.
I have spent the past three decades in clinical practice watching that happen. For about 13 of those years I also did child custody evaluations for the courts, which put me in a room with people during some of the hardest seasons of their lives. New faces every week, new circumstances every time. One pattern underneath all of it.
Most of us react first, and choose later if we choose at all.
That’s why I teach positivity as more than an attitude. I teach it as a skill.
Skills are built through practice. You don’t learn piano because somebody tells you to be musical. You learn when you sit down and play, and then you do it again, and again, and again. Positivity works the same way. Reps are relatively brief and regular, and they work.
That’s why my team and I built Positives.
Every morning I’ll walk you through a three-to-four-minute meditation practice, built around one idea and one of your seven key relationships. You spend more time brushing your teeth! Mental hygiene is every bit as important as dental hygiene (probably more important). Each week we take a practical principle further (kind of like your weekly piano lessons). Each month you get a full masterclass on one powerful tool, model, or principle of positive psychology.
Then we do it all again. This is a process, not an event.
The goal is to know more about positivity and the science behind it, with the ultimate objective of transformation through daily/weekly/monthly practice.
Live on Purpose,
Dr. Paul Jenkins
Positivity Psychologist · Founder of Positives
